“The heart has its reason of which reason knows nothing”. You have probably already heard this famous quote by Blaise Pascal, a French mathematician, physicist & inventor who walked the earth, way back in the 17th Century.
 
Throughout history philosophers & scientists alike have speculated on the tremendous wisdom of our hearts. Yet, it is only fairly recently that we have begun to take those thoughts seriously. Thankfully, we are starting to understand that in a world where the rational mind has been a superstar for centuries, it might be within reason to give both our heart and gut some credit as well. Learning to trust them is not only sane; it leads to emotional coherence and improved wellbeing.
 
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL COHERENCE?
 
In a nutshell, it is the ability to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no, even if it means going against the status quo. 

Here is a little light-hearted anecdote to illustrate the concept:
 
You know that friend who split up with her boyfriend eons ago and still spends hours complaining about how miserable her life is to anybody who is willing to listen? Yes, that friend! You've listened to her for hours on end and offered to help, but she doesn't seem to want any help. She really just wants someone to complain to. Understandably, at this stage, you are tired of the situation but (rational thought) SHE IS YOUR FRIEND or YOUR MUM or YOUR SISTER or fill in the blank.
 
It's Friday evening, you have just got home and are exhausted from a long week. You are looking forward to that relaxing bath and to some quality time with your other half. Then the phone rings. It's HER, she is in tears and asks if you can come over. Now, let's look at a couple of possible scenarios here.
 
The rational mind scenario: your heart sinks (bye, bye, lovely Friday evening). Your rational mind immediately takes over (it's your friend, how can you be so selfish to even think that way)and guilt sets in. You say: “Sure, I'll be there in an hour tops“. Your heart sinks further as you hang up.
 
Here is how things are likely to pan out: you, my friend, bypassed your feelings and sacrificed a much needed relaxing evening in, against your true will. As a result, you go half-heartedly and listen absently to the same story all over again. You come home tired and irritable, and to put it mildly you DO NOT have a romantic evening with your other half. Your friend is none the wiser and is still wallowing in self-pity as you put your PJs on. Oh if only you had listened to your heart!  
 
The heartfelt scenario: Your heart sinks and this time you pay attention to your feelings and needs. You listen to her attentively (ignoring the tantrum your rational mind is throwing) and kindly say: “I’m really sorry you are feeling this way, I feel you but I have had a tough day myself and really need to wind down. How about we catch up tomorrow and go and see that really fun movie we talked about?" You hang up and go run that lovely bubble bath you have been waiting for all day.
 
Here is how things are likely to pan out: if your friend is a good friend and cares about you too, she will understand and it might even put things into perspective for her. The next day, you are feeling refreshed and are able to be fully present. The movie uplifts her and you both have a nice afternoon. If she mentions her ex, you tell her that you don't want to talk about him anymore, as it is not doing anybody any good at this point.
 
You see, your heart will often ask you to put your wellbeing first and that's fine because, at the end of the day, it also allows you to be more present with the people you love.  
 
To a lot of us, this is an alien way of behaving because it is not the way we were taught. However, contrary to common belief, self-sacrifice is not the way forward. In fact, love and sacrifice are opposites, if you ask me. Sacrifice comes from the mind, not from the heart. Sacrifice is rooted in fear (fear of not being accepted, fear of not been loved etc.) and is, therefore, a form of control.
 
To act lovingly is to acknowledge your own needs and understand if, when and how you can help. It is also accepting when things are out of your control and giving people the space to learn how to swim by themselves. Have you ever thought that by feeding into your friend's self pity behaviour, you are not allowing her to grow and come out of it? Trust me, I was THAT miserable friend. I have a fair idea of what I am talking about.
 
The heart is bold, “illogical” and incredibly wise. Although trusting it can be scary at times, it undoubtedly leads to more sensible choices and giant leaps.

WHAT SCIENCE IS SAYING ABOUT HEART AND GUT INTELLIGENCE:
 
Your heart and brain communicate continuously and, contrary to common belief, the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brains sends to the heart [1]. The human heart is actually composed of a heart-brain with about 40,000 neurones that can sense, feel, learn and remember.[2]Not only does it influence the brain but also most of the major body's organs, and ultimately determines our quality of life[3].
 
Your gut is also in constant communication with your brain and with its 100 million neurones, some scientists call it “the second brain”.  It is said to partly determine our mental state and that “a big part of our emotions are probably influenced by the nerves in our gut[4]”. Don’t the expressions having butterflies in your stomach or an intense gut feeling make total sense here?
 
Now interestingly enough both these organs communicate with our limbic brain (the oldest part of our brain), not with the neocortex (the newest part of our brain, also responsible for rational and analytical thought). The limbic brain is responsible for all of our feelings. It is also responsible for all human behaviour and all our decision-making, but has no capacity for language. That is why putting our feelings into words is so hard. That is also why when you make a decision with your gut or heart (i.e with your limbic brain), it just feels right but you cannot explain it logically[5].
 
The limbic brain is powerful, powerful enough to drive behaviours that sometimes contradict our rational understanding of a situation says Simon Senek in his excellent book: Start with Why. And according to the Neuroscientist Richard Restak: “when you force people to make decisions with only the rational part of their brain, they almost invariably end up “overthinking”. On the contrary, decisions made with the limbic brain, gut decisions, tend to be faster, higher quality decisions[6]. That is what happens when you listen to your gut instinct. And we all have had occasions where we failed to do that and realised in high insight that our heart/gut did, in fact, speak first, even though our mind spoke louder. Sometimes you just have to listen to that quiet, still voice; the one that is in tune with what feels right, not what looks or seems right. In fact, Simon Senek argues that what makes great leaders such as Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Steve Jobs stand out is their capacity to follow and lead from their hearts.
 
Of course, our logical brain serves its purpose as well. It is not about completely cancelling it out. The logical brain helps us to put our heartfelt decisions into practice with concrete, measured steps. However, we are starting to realise that in order to lead a coherent, purposeful life we must learn to tune into our feelings and the wisdom of our bodies too. It is like learning how to balance art and science, understanding that one does not exclude the other, but rather, as in everything in nature, they complement each other.

PRACTICE TUNING INTO YOUR HEART

We all innately know how to tune into our hearts. However, in a world that has prioritised rational thinking for generations, many of us have simply forgotten how to listen. I guess it is a bit like learning to ride a bicycle all over again: patience and trusting that you already know are key. Here are a few tips I like to apply to my own life:

1. Your heart lives in the present moment. That is why it is so good at making swift decisions. So, any activity that anchors you in the present moment will ultimately reconnect you with your heart's wisdom:

 

• Breathe. This seems obvious. However, we often forget about our breath, especially when we are overwhelmed or stressed. Not only does deep breathing bring you back to the present moment, but it helps regulate your heart rate as well. Try this simple technique: breathe in through your nose for 5-8 seconds making sure to inflate and push your belly outwards, hold for 3-5 seconds and slowly release. Repeat several times. I find that placing my hands on both my chest and belly really helps as well.

 

• Spend time in nature. Nature is a wonderful balm for the heart. A bit of green, whether it be beautiful rolling countryside or a park in the middle of a busy city, will help you reconnect with the present moment. When you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed, put those comfy shoes on and go out for a stroll. Make it a daily habit as well if you can.

 

• Learn to meditate. The benefits of meditation are immense and scientifically proven. It helps to quiet the mind and gives you better access to that wise, still, inner voice. If you are a newbie, I suggest you download the Headspace App. It teaches you how to meditate in a really fun and approachable way. All you need is 10 minutes a day. I also highly recommend Tara Brach´s mindfulness talks. And if you are looking to go deep and have 10 days to spare, you can sign up for a Vipassana silent retreat. This wonderful, transparent organisation has donation-based centres worldwide. Although it is a challenging experience, it was life changing for me. Anyone can do it! I had never meditated before attending my first retreat. My only advice would be: don't give up and stay until the end! You will not regret it.

 
2. Your heart doesn't think, it feels. That feeling of knowing is a feeling not a though. With that in mind, practice paying attention to how certain experiences make you feel first. The feeling comes before the thought because your limbic brain reacts quicker than your rational mind.

• Practice with small things. One of my favourite activities to tune into my senses (the language of the heart) is to go on what a friend of mine calls: inspired walks. The only rule on those walks is that your guide is your heart/intuition, not your logical mind. Just set out and choose where to turn next based on what feels right, sometimes it will be a ray of light that will catch your eye, sometimes it's just a knowing, whatever calls you to make the next move. Don't question it just trust the process. By using this technique I have literally found my way again, without a map! Try it and build that heart muscle of yours step by step.

 

• Write to your intuition. I first learned about this through Jess Lively's podcast. If this resonates, you can check out Jess's episode about intuition here. ​Her work took my life to a whole new level. My decision to move to London a year and a half ago, against all odds, was completely intuitive and illogical. I will not expand here but it is one of the best decisions I have ever made. The answers Intuition comes out with are beyond wise and often very surprising. They surpass the mind’s capabilities by far.

3.  Practice emotional coherence. I cannot emphasise it enough: learn to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. That means, breathing, listening to your heart and to the way you feel first. It also implies taking full responsibility for your side of the coin. Some people might dislike you for it because it will not fit their own agenda. However, both your heart and the people who truly care about you will eventually be happier as a result.
 
4. When you fail to listen to your heart and take a “wrong turn” be compassionate with yourself. Remember that there are no wrong turns, just experiences and opportunities to learn! 
 
And there, you have it. I hope your heart enjoyed the read. I would love to hear about your own experiences. What do you do to connect with your own heart? What is the best heart driven decision you've ever made and how did it change your circumstances?
 
Meanwhile, may something inspiring happen to you today. 
 
With all my love,
 
Dannie.
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As a BioNeuroEmotion (BNE) practitioner, I help consciously aware people identify the emotional root cause of any re-occurring pattern, issue or physical ailment they might have, so they can shift their perception and show up as their best selves. 
Should this resonate, you can find out more here. 

​And, please do not hesitate to reach out. I love connecting with people! 

Ressources:
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[1]https://www.heartmath.org/science/

[2]https://www.huffingtonpost.com/heartmath-llc/heart-wisdom_b_2615857.html

[3]https://www.heartmath.org/resources/downloads/science-of-the-heart/?submenuheader=3

[4]https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/gut-second-brain/
 
[5]Sinek, S. (2016). Start with why. [United States]: Joosr Ltd, pp.55-59.
 
[6]Sinek, S. (2016). Start with why. [United States]: Joosr Ltd, pp.55-59.

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​Don't get me wrong, I think recycling is a great tool and, by now, I feel it should be an ingrained habit. However, we also need to be aware of the impact our consuming habits have on our environment. We absolutely need to put our 5 cents of consciousness at work for the sake of both our planet and humanity. In fact, I believe that at the end of the day the planet will be fine. We, on the other hand may well disappear if we do not take better care of our precious environment. Nature is resilient, wise and wonderfully creative in the face of adversity. We possess all those qualities as well. Now is the time for us to truly embrace them. Let us lead by example. Let us be responsible and coherent adults. Let's at least try for the sake of our children!
 
So although recycling is the first conscious step, the ultimate goal is to understand that we have the power to considerably lower the production of waste worldwide by really paying attention to how we consume in the first place. Consumers have the ultimate power and neither corporations nor governments can truly function without the back up of our hard earned money.
 
Money is neither good nor bad, it just is. However, there are conscious and unconscious ways of spending it.
A conversation I had with my mum, actually sparked the idea behind this post. My mum is a florist. She recently told me that she stopped offering plastic bags to her clients. She has cardboard boxes for people who buy large quantities and that's it. She says that her clients just got used to it and now come to her stand prepared. She hasn't seen a decline in her clientele and says she is not interested in serving the kind of people who would find her initiative a nuisance anyhow. I love her attitude! That, my friends, is acting in a coherent way: saying yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. Because let's face it: what is more important, the future of our planet and species or people pleasing?
 
I would much rather be spending my money at an environmentally conscious shop or corporation than supporting ones that still seem to think that producing heaps of unnecessary waste and putting the recycling logo on it is still ok.
 
A FEW BRIEF FACTS ON RECYCLING: 

You might think that recycling is enough. However, it is not.
 
Let´s just take a look at plastic alone. Much of the plastic dropped in recycling bins isn’t even recycled. "In 2014, 22% of PET plastic collected for recycling was exported out of the United States as facilities can’t keep up: Plastic production surged from 15 million tons in 1964 to 311 million tons in 2014—an increase of more than 2,000 per cent. Currently, more than 300 million tons of new plastic is produced annually and less than 10% is recycled".[1]
 
8 million metric tons of plastic enter the ocean each year. And that plastic dear friends, literally ends up on your plate, as it is now part of the current fish diet. The United Nations Ocean Conference even estimated that the oceans might contain more weight in plastics than fish by the year 2050.[2] Plenty of room for thought there, huh?

Now let's take a quick look at clothing. The fashion industry is another major waste producer. The clothing and textile industry is the largest polluter in the world, second to oil.[3] On top of that most clothing is such poor quality nowadays that second hand shops & charities have to rag a big percentage of the items they receive. Most of these end up in landfills.
 
SO WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT IT?

By now, I believe that most of us know that recycling is not the answer to our problems. Questioning what we consume is. Big changes often happen with small consistent shifts. I am not saying that you have to necessarily go zero waste all at once, but there are little shifts you can make that will make a big difference in the long run. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
 
1. Say no to plastic bags, it's the least you can do. Some countries have already banned plastic bags (Africa is at the top of the list interestingly enough)[4]. Let's make sure it happens sooner than later in our countries as well. Get yourself a couple of cute, lightweight, easy to carry around cotton bags (if they are made of recycled fabric even better) and make use of them. When the shopkeeper offers you a bag, politely refuse. You never know, your action and/or stylish bag might even inspire the person standing behind you. 

​2. If you are a shop owner take example on my mum or look for alternative packaging solutions. There are plenty of alternatives on the market now. Here is an example of a UK based oral care company that I love who has done away with unfriendly packaging.

3. When possible, avoid buying already packed fruit and veg. Prefer shops that sell them in bulk. I personally try not to buy any fresh produce from supermarkets. In fact, I tend to avoid supermarkets as much as possible as I want to invest my money in smaller, eco-friendlier companies. I generally prefer farmers markets and I am a big fan of Riverford. This UK based company delivers organic produce to my doorstep, on a weekly basis. I have been using them ever since I moved to the UK and absolutely love what they stand for. They also advocate minimal packaging and although there is still some plastic involved for meat etc., the produce comes in reusable boxes that are sent back weekly. They have carried out extensive studies on packaging and have plenty of valuable information on their website.

4. Leave unnecessary packaging at the shop counter. There have been campaigns where people consistently left all the packaging of the items they bought at the cash register and walked out. The idea is to raise awareness. Supermarkets had to dispose of the waste or send it back to suppliers. What a great idea!

5. Try to buy local and seasonal when possible. Buying an organic avocado at Whole Foods that has been shipped all the way from Mexico is not all that environmentally friendly if you really think about it. Learn to read the labels, ask your local shopkeepers and choose wisely. Fun fact: city produced honey is considered to be one of the best as bees feed off private garden flowers and pot plants that are usually pesticide free. Here is a UK based company that I personally like: The Local Honey Man. 

5. Invest in a good water filter and say goodbye to plastic bottles. I believe this is one of the best investments I have made so far to get round the water issue. Living in a major city like London often implies that your tap water is a no go. Personally, I really had an issue with the amount of plastic bottles I was consuming as a result. A BRITA filter is a first step. However, there is a limit as to what it can filter and the filters need to be changed quite often so it is not a sustainable, long-term solution. After much research, I decided to invest in a Berkey filter. Although, the filter is non recyclable, it lasts for an average of 11 years and really filters the water well. I got the travel Berkey and love it. Even though it is an investment, it quickly pays off. For me it was a no brainer! I would also advise you to invest in a reusable glass or copper water bottle that you can carry around with you.

6. Ladies, turn your period into an environmentally friendly one by using a Mooncup. It has seriously changed my life. It is hygienic, easy to use, environmentally friendly and cost effective. What is there not to love! There are also reusable, washable pads out there and special period underwear. To find out more check out this blog post by the lovely Claire Baker.

7. Be savvy when choosing cosmetics and household products. Your shampoo and other products are flushed down your waste system and eventually end up in the sea. So it is important to know what is in them, both for the environment and your own health. If you read the back of most laundry detergent brands, it literally says: "harmful to aquatic life with long lasting effects" (what the what!!!). Bicarbonate of Soda is a great & cheap alternative. I have also started adding responsibly sourced soap nuts and am really happy with the result. You can find out more about them in this informative blog post by 1millionwomen.com.au.

There are more and more environmentally friendly companies and information out there. Just learn to look at the ingredients and don't be fooled by fancy green washing packaging. A UK based company I love is Suneeta Cosmetics. It is a family run company with good core values and affordable products. They even offer you the possibility of bringing your own containers at their pop up stores in London's Brixton village market, Portobello Road Market and Brick Lane Market.

8. If you are feeling adventurous & creative you can make your own cosmetics and house products. I love essential oils and have learned how to make my own face concoctions. There is lots of information available on the Web and my go to book is the fragrant pharmacy by Valerie Ann Wordwood. For essential oils, I would recommend using Doterra. I recently found out about them and really like what they stand for. From the information I gathered they are an incredibly sustainable company. Vinegar and lemon essential oil are a great combo for cleaning your house as well and there are many other effective natural alternatives out there you can look up. 

9. Try to purchase clothes in second hand shops. There are so many good finds out there. I find it really fun to shop second hand and have spotted some great pieces. Another quirky way to recycle clothes without always feeding into the high street fashion industry is to organise a clothes swap with your girlfriends. Just get together for a fun gathering and bring clothes that you no longer wear. Some of my favourite items and memories come from those clothes swaps!

10. When possible, leave your car at home and instead of spending money on petrol, use public transport, walk or cycle. Just imagine how much carbon emissions we could reduce if every single one of us were more mindful about how we used our cars. Living in a big city like London, I feel owning a car is often unnecessary.  I cycle everywhere and the added bonus is that I save money on my gym membership. Now I know this is not possible for everyone, but I am sure many of us can reduce the time we spend in our cars, even if it is just a couple of hours a week. Remember, a little can go a long way. I am also an advocate of rideshares. I have often used them when travelling and have met some great people that way. It is safe, fun, cost effective and environmentally friendly as it reduces the amount of cars on the road. This is the UK version of a website I have used for years when living in Spain and travelling to France: Blablacar. 
 
The above are just a few tips that I apply to my own life in order to gain some power back, by being more coherent with the way I consume. You might already be applying some of these to your own life and there is so much more we can do. I believe the key is to start somewhere. Baby steps often lead to giant leaps. I feel awareness really is key and it is our duty to be more responsible when it comes to taking care of this beautiful planet we are so lucky to be living on.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Did you find any of these tips valuable? What do you do to be a responsible consumer? Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips to this list so we can all learn and grow together.  
    
Meanwhile, may something inspiring happen to you today!

With all my love,

Dannie
​
As a BioNeuroEmotion (BNE) practitioner, I help consciously aware people identify the emotional root cause of any re-occurring pattern, issue or physical ailment they might have, so they can shift their perception and show up as their best selves. 
Should this resonate, you can find out more here. 

​And, please do not hesitate to reach out. I love connecting with people! 

Ressources:
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[1] https://www.5gyres.org/truth-about-recycling/

[2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Pacific_garbage_patch
 
[3] https://edgexpo.com/fashion-industry-waste-statistics/
 
[4] https://study.com/blog/which-countries-have-banned-plastic-bags.html